I appreciate the advice :)

It sounds like your self-esteem is quite low. I think this guy notices that and realizes that you are shy too and he could be trying to bring you out of your shell. I’ve had people do that to me when I was younger. Whether or not this turns into a relationship, this guy sounds like a nice friend at least. So don’t be afraid to talk to him. Worst case scenario you make a new friend.

I know it’s hard to break away from this man but just pick yourself up and break off all contact with him, it will be hard but you will be better off for it in the end. He’s probably doing this with who knows how many other women. Or he could just stop seeing you suddenly if rumours around school start, or if he gets a steady girlfriend, then you will be heartbroken. So end it now while you still can.

Why do you feel so attracted to this man? Does the affection and attention he gives you make you feel special? You are not in love with him, you are in love with the attention and the way he makes you feel about yourself. Stop falling for this unprofessional asshole who is only getting his rocks off by sleeping with a student, you’re just sex to him, so don’t degrade yourself anymore, focus on school and find someone who is available who can give you the attention you deserve and treat you like a queen.

Why do you feel unhappy with your life right now? Because you don’t have someone? Surround yourself with friends and try to get out more. If you are unhappy you won’t bring positive people into your life, and that includes potential partners. Just focus on school and try not to let your grades slip. The right person will come along when you are emotionally ready, not when you are anxious and nervous.

It’s good that you guys are hanging out now and just enjoying it. But just be prepared in case he asks you to be his girlfriend.. you either will break it off in 8 months when you leave, or it will turn into a long-distance thing. But I guess that all depends on how you feel about him later on down the line.
Personally I would probably talk to him and ask him what he wants: i.e. a girlfriend, or just to hang out as friends, etc., and then let him know you are leaving… just so neither of you gets hurt later on.

He seems like an around great guy, makes me smile, not opinionated, funny, sweet. Apparently used to be a partyer but has matured in the past couple of years. I still don’t feel like I know him all that well or him me, I guess because I havn’t talked about any of my darker life experiencess. But I suppose that’s why we are still getting to know each other. I feel like, if I found out that I wasn’t moving away in the fall (I won’t know till May) that we would end up in a relationship. I don’t think he is seeing anyone else (always with me on weekends and has crazy long days on weekends) so it seems like all that is missing a facebook status and “meet the parents” night.

I hope this one works out for me. I always fell for the guy who was taken and never lucked out. Here is a guy who is single and knows how to be in a relationship . I’m a strong believer that past behaviour predicts future behaviour. I bet he was hurt by his ex (they were together for a VERY long time so it must have been horrible breaking up) but at the end of the day it was his choice (she was pressuring him for marraige and he didn’t want that). I can imagine that he would need some time to just not have that relationship status. He probably doesn’t know if he can trust me right now or if I am right for him. I don’t know that about him either. But at least at the moment we are playing around with that idea and not just giving up, just enjoying each others company.

It sounds like this girl from school seems “perfect” for you, but I got news for you, she’s not. She is merely representing what you are missing in your relationship right now. You need to deal with that first before thinking about pursuing other women.

You’re not a fool, people just make mistakes sometimes. Now that you realize it’s an unhealthy relationship, you can take steps towards ending it…

Just also be careful…becomes sometimes a “friends with benefit” situation could turn into trouble if one person ends up falling hard for the other person. I had a guy who was obsessed with me when I told him I didn’t really want a relationship from the start, and I have also fallen for guys who I was just hanging out with. So if you keep seeing him, just be careful about getting too attached and keep it light & fun unless you both want a serious thing.

I know it’s my fault for not putting enough effort into the course, but it’s just so hard to find motivation when I don’t even know what I’m working towards. I don’t even know what I’m going to do with this degree after graduation or even if I want it. But I have to finish now…

In the meantime, I’m actually fairly certain that I could get my final grade overturned. I’m pretty sure a grade appeal would be successful, not because the grading wasn’t fair, but because of a procedural issue - the prof didn’t hand back any assignment before the course drop date. So I had no feedback in the course until after it was too late to drop, which is a violation of a senate bylaw. If I appealed the grade, I’d probably be successful. But then again, I don’t want to be known as a sneaky student who appeals bad grades. I’d re-take the course, but that may not be an option b/c it’s only offered every few years.

I’ve never thought about appealing a grade, and don’t know anyone who has. I would kind of feel like I’m taking advantage of a loophole, but then again, I would have dropped the class if I knew my grade on the first paper. Anybody have any experience with grade appeals? Does it look bad for a student to do such a thing?

If there’s a lot of/too many things, maybe you could also try to do a general overview of a bunch of different topics instead; try to learn a bit from each thing. Maybe break the 5 hours up into 1 hour segments. Try to do one “topic” per hour or whatever. Just try to organize your time as best as you can right now. Making a list and organizing will help you focus and make it seem a bit less overwhelming.

Be prepared to accept some losses too. You could’ve studied more but you didn’t. Don’t beat yourself up with “should haves” right now. Just do the best with whatever time you have right now. If you get a C on the final you can still keep the grade you have. Nothing you can do now but try your hardest for the next few hours. Good luck!!