I slept with my professor. I am totally in love with him. I don’t know what to
do.
confession n. A written or oral statement acknowledging guilt, made by one who has been accused or charged with an offense.
It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.
— Oscar Wilde
It's kind of like being in someone's head while they're praying or thinking about things they'd never say outloud.
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February 11th, 2010 at 5:11 pm
Stop now before you ruin both of your reputations and careers. Is he married? What is the age difference? How did it happen? Chances are it’s lust, not love.
February 11th, 2010 at 8:57 pm
lucky girl, wish I could say the same
February 15th, 2010 at 9:46 pm
hes 36, i’m 19… hes single. i know he’s not in love with me, he just thinks im cute, but i’m head over heels for him.
February 15th, 2010 at 10:02 pm
Take it from someone who has unfortunately been there before many times. He’s completely using you, so please don’t shatter your self-esteem even further by falling for this man. It will lead you nowhere. And it can ruin your future with that school should you decide to pursue a Masters/PhD later on.
Why do you feel so attracted to this man? Does the affection and attention he gives you make you feel special? You are not in love with him, you are in love with the attention and the way he makes you feel about yourself. Stop falling for this unprofessional asshole who is only getting his rocks off by sleeping with a student, you’re just sex to him, so don’t degrade yourself anymore, focus on school and find someone who is available who can give you the attention you deserve and treat you like a queen.
February 15th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
yeah its kind of consuming my whole life. hes just really handsome and has a very attractive confident personality. i guess its the attention though… he could have anyone and he wants me. i havent ever felt this way about someone before.
February 16th, 2010 at 5:54 pm
Yeah this happened to me before. The guy completely blew me away, very charming, suave, really confident guy and he flirted with everyone. I felt so beautiful being around him with all that attention. After I slept with him I found out he was married, and his wife had been abused sexually so he was frustrated that she wasn’t “putting out”. I went home and threw up I had never been so disgusted (more so because I have personal experience with sexual abuse). I felt very used then I realized that he probably does this with everyone. If it wasn’t me, it would have been someone else who fell for him. I told him off and that was the end of it.
I know it’s hard to break away from this man but just pick yourself up and break off all contact with him, it will be hard but you will be better off for it in the end. He’s probably doing this with who knows how many other women. Or he could just stop seeing you suddenly if rumours around school start, or if he gets a steady girlfriend, then you will be heartbroken. So end it now while you still can.
February 21st, 2010 at 9:59 pm
Did it just happen the one time? Is he your prof right now?