I hooked up with my Professor today. He is single and our ages are not very far
apart. He knows I didn’t do it for a grade, seeing as how i was getting an A
all semester. It seems as if we both equally interested i each other. We are
debating if we should wait to continue seeing each other until this school year
is over, seeing as how i have him for two semesters. It’s just hard for us to be
apart.
confession n. A written or oral statement acknowledging guilt, made by one who has been accused or charged with an offense.
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It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.
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November 17th, 2008 at 7:10 pm
Just wait. You don’t know what repercussions there could be for either of you otherwise. I think it’s pretty low of him to be hooking up with his student anyways, single or not, age-related or not, it’s very unethical and unprofessional.
Which is why you should wait; it will ensure that he is genuinely interested in you if he’s willing to wait (or has he done this with many before you?). And he can also be sure you’re not doing it for your grade (I know you said you’re not, but he may be wondering deep down if you are).
November 17th, 2008 at 8:48 pm
I would be very suspicious of a professor that is willing to shag a current student (even if you guys are both single and the same age). He can fuck up his entire career. And if people find out and he gets in trouble, guess who he’ll be mad and throw the blame at?? That’s right, you.
Just leave him for now, do your own thing, and try to hook up with him again after you’re not a student there anymore (if you’re still single). If he’s not willing to do that, you know it wasn’t meant to be.
November 18th, 2008 at 9:14 am
I’d ask him if you still have to take the final.
November 19th, 2008 at 10:29 pm
#3 is right. You have him by the balls now, you can threaten to blow the whistle on your relationship if he won’t give you a pass on that test/exam/paper, etc. But I’m sure he’s used to it - he’s probably plugged a few students before you if he so easily gets into a relationship with a student, in spite of the fact that he can very quickly lose his job - rumours spread like wildfire in schools. I’m sure someone will find out sooner or later, how many girlfriends have you told so far??
November 20th, 2008 at 10:25 am
My earlier comment was a stab at humor rather than one of vindictiveness. “By the way, did I get any extra credit for this?”
November 25th, 2008 at 12:35 am
Haven’t told anyone actually #4. Some people are a bit more mature than teenage blabbermouths.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:24 pm
I hope you get thrown out of the university and he gets his ass fired for this.
November 25th, 2008 at 11:42 pm
#6 - It’s not about immature teenage blabbermouths, a lot of people disclose things like this to their closest friends. That’s what I meant. Just be careful, you don’t want to screw up your future (or his) over a fling. Just see if he’ll wait until you graduate, if he doesn’t want to, he’s not worth it.
November 26th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
One of my professors and the dean of the science department at my school thought I was dating one of my TAs (when I wasn’t), because we used to hang out, go for smoke breaks together, and talk all the time - it was after the class was over too. Beware of nosy people…
November 27th, 2008 at 10:47 pm
I will #9. Number 7…why so bitter? It’s sad.
November 28th, 2008 at 9:53 am
I have nothing to be bitter about, since I don’t need to sleep with men of authority to feel better about myself, unlike you. =) You’re both scum since you don’t care if you get this professor fired by continuing this, and he’s an idiot for risking everything he’s worked hard for, by sleeping with a current student.
You’re both in the wrong and this will come back to bite you in the ass.
November 30th, 2008 at 1:24 am
Well #7, forgive me if you DO come off bitter. You are the one who is slinging mud towards me by unfair judgement. I do not need to sleep with a man of authority to feel better about myself. I feel pretty damn good about myself all the time. Everyone knows this kind of thing happens more than anyone wants to admit. So calm down with the attitude and name calling. Sure makes you come off as a sad, hateful person.
November 30th, 2008 at 5:28 am
yeah seriously it’s not a big deal, they are both single so what is all the hoopla? it’s not like she did it for a grade, and even if she did, who cares? it’s no one else’s life but her own and who are we to judge? things like this happen all the time and frankly there are much much worse things going on in the world. if only all of the negative spiteful people could use their energy towards more positive things, we could actually solve some real problems!
November 30th, 2008 at 9:19 am
does #7 sound like a professor to anyone else?
November 30th, 2008 at 12:40 pm
I’m not sure if #7 is a prof, but in any case, this is going to be a lot of people’s opinion around the school if others find out about the relationship. That’s why its maybe best to wait until you are done his courses or graduate. You avoid a lot of hassles from other people, sneaking around, and avoid the risk of screwing up both your futures that way.
November 30th, 2008 at 8:06 pm
I’m not a professor, sorry. And I still stand by everything I said.
December 1st, 2008 at 10:56 pm
As long as you are both over 18, then no harm no foul. Good for you OP.
December 2nd, 2008 at 7:12 pm
#3 - what if the school administration finds out and he loses his job?? And the OP then has to continue going to school there with a reputation of sleeping with a professor?? That’s too big of a mess to deal with…They have these rules in place for a reason…Just being over 18 doesn’t mean someone of authority can’t take advantage of students…
They should wait until the OP graduates. Then they’ll both be free to do whatever they want.
December 11th, 2008 at 8:27 am
Agreed, number 17, there are too many busybodies in the world with their noses into everyone else’s business.